Monday, September 20, 2010

Matthew 2 Months!

Here are some pictures of our handsome little guy! We love playing with him now he has the cutest little grins and has really started babbling a lot. At his check up he was 11.4 pounds and 23 inches long, growing like a weed. Here are some pictures of the little guy :)

Matthew's Blessing

We blessed Matthew when he was about 3 weeks old. It was a wonderful day and we had lots of my family come and support us and Matthew. Chris gave him his blessing and that evening we had a family dinner. It was especially nice because we got to see most of the family and enjoy some time together before the big move back across the state. Here are some pictures of the day!

Tuesday, September 07, 2010

Jeffrey Wright

My cousin was killed in a single car accident last week, and as I reflect on his life and some of the unknowns surrounding his death I am sad that he never gets the chance to grow up and experience some of the great joys of life. He was 21 years old and still trying to figure things out. He had many wonderful qualities, and was a thoughtful kind person, he had lots of friends and family. I remember spending many days swimming in Mason Lake with him, camping trips, Easter egg hunts, Christmas dinners, he brought a wonderful energy to this world and to his friends and family.

As I read the following article from the Kitsap Sun, along with many of the comments people left below, it made me sad. The article infers that drinking was involved in the accident, I don't know if that is true, I don't think it was ever confirmed.
As I was thinking about the possibility that alcohol was involved it made me very upset that he would be risking his life and others lives by making such a stupid choice. I am strongly and firmly against drunk driving and I hope that is not the case, however if it was, if he did make that mistake he also paid the ultimate price, and unfortunately his family also has to pay and say good bye to him way too soon. Chris and I spent a lot of time talking last night about Jeff and the accident and the possible connection of alcohol and came to the conclusion that young people make stupid choices, I don't think too many people make it to 25 without making a dumb choice that endangers themselves or others. However, most people do get the chance to correct their choices and turn their lives around if needed, this is something Jeff doesn't get the chance to do, at least not in this life.

So then the question is... Should we hold or remember him as any less of a person because he may have made a big mistake. Absolutely not, I think that we need to remember him as a wonderful son, brother, grandson, nephew, cousin, and friend. we all need to remember him for who he was and not a choice or two that he may have made. Heavenly Father would want us to look past all the things that are negative because it is not our place to judge him on those factors and remember him as a wonderful child of God. All of us are children of God and all of us are here on Earth to learn and grow and sometimes we learn lessons the hard way.

Enough about the article and comments that followed it. I just needed to express to whoever reads this connected to Jeff or the article, that everyone makes mistakes and those mistakes should not be held against us forever, we are on this earth to love and help each other, not to judge and condemn each other. He will never have the chance to learn from this mistake, it doesn't make his choice right, but we must remember his potential, and all the wonderful contributions he did make.

Bremerton Man Dies in Central Kitsap Crash

— A Bremerton man was killed late Tuesday in a one-car crash on Provost Road near NW Shelley Drive, according to the Kitsap County Sheriff's Office.

The sheriff's office identified the man as Jeffrey Wright, 21.

Wright was driving a 1988 Chevy Cavalier south on Provost Road just before 9:30 p.m. when the car left the road to the right and rolled, coming to rest on its top. Wright was pinned underneath the vehicle, deputies said, and pronounced dead at the scene.

A 36-year-old Bremerton man was riding in the car with Wright, but he was not hurt, deputies said.

Kitsap County Sheriff's Sgt. Mike Merrill said neither man was wearing a seatbelt. Merrill said it appears Wright lost control of the car going through some curves just before Shelley Drive.

Alcohol and speed appear to be factors in the crash, deputies said.

Wright is the ninth person to die in a car crash on a Kitsap County road this year.

Anyone with information about the crash is asked to call Kitsap County Sheriff's Deputy Andy Aman at (360) 337-4634.

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Matthew's Birth Story

Matthew was due on July 6th and we were anxiously awaiting his arrival, but he was stubborn and we ended up having to force the little guy to come. I went into the hospital to be induced on Wednesday July 14 at 6:00pm. We got all checked in and they started the inducing process. I was suppose to get two doses of a ripening agent to get me ready to deliver before they started the pitocin at 4:00am on the 15th. They came and put my IV in, only at first they put the IV on the top of my hand- not comfortable at all, I had them move it shortly after. Then they gave me the first dose of the ripening agent, I was having to many little contractions to do a second dose like they were planning, so the Doctor said that we would start the pitocin at midnight. This was not the original plan but I was okay with it, I was not sure what to expect. They told me it would start slow and I would be able to sleep for most of the night. HA HA that was a really funny joke, okay not really funny but I definitely didn't get any sleep. 
So at about 12:15am they started the pitocin to induce labor. They were suppose to come back every 1/2 hour to increase the dose gradually, I didn't see anyone for the next hour and a half, then the Doctor came back to see how I was doing. He was not very happy when he found out they had not been increasing the medication levels. A few minutes later the nurse came in and bumped it up the 3 levels they were suppose to have. Only now it was all at once, not fun. The contractions intensified a ton and then I found out how much it hurts. Everytime they came to increase the meds I wanted to kick the nurse. I didn't of course but I sure thought about it :) At about 3 am they came and checked my progress and I was about 3cm, so we were not even close. 
The contractions were really strong and close together, at one point I didn't even have a break between them. They didn't check me again until about 6 am, at that point they were having a problem getting the monitors to track Matthews heartbeat, so the Doctor decided to put a monitor on his head. I had no idea what they were doing at this point, and Chris was so exhausted because I would not let him leave my side. All of a sudden they broke my water, oh boy did that intensify the contractions! They said I was about 6cm dilated at that point.They started my antibiotics a little while after that. At about 7:15am I told the nurse that I needed to push, she said that I probably wasn't close but she would check. When she checked she found I was 9cm almost 10 but told me I couldn't push yet. That was not the answer I wanted. About that time my Mom showed up, and was shocked because I was almost ready to start pushing. I was so happy to see her, and Chris was relieved also. It took forever to get to 10 cm, I was amazed because of how strong my body was because it was trying to push that baby out and I couldn't stop it. At about 7:40 am the Doctor came in and I started pushing. Matthew was born a little over 20 minutes later at 8:02 am! I was so happy to be done and to see that little baby, and hear him cry, it was a beautiful sound! Then the doctor started pushing on my tummy to deliver the umbilical cord and such. I told him that I was all done hurting the baby was out he needed to stop, he didn't stop. They gave me meds to slow the bleeding because I was loosing blood at a pretty good pace. I just remember watching them clean up my baby, and weigh him, take his footprints. i got to see my parents hold their first Grandchild, my husband hold his brand new baby for the first time. Chris even cut the umbilical cord. There was so much going on and I'm sure this is written very scattered, but I remember it being very scattered. 
In the end I was excited because I did it! I did it with no epidural, I felt like I had in some way proven to myself that I was strong and could do anything. I was also excited for the pain medications that they gave me after I had a few bites of breakfast. They gave me this huge breakfast at about 9am and expected me to be able to eat it which I thought was funny I was still shaking and weak, and exhausted. All I wanted to do was sleep, I kept trying to get them to let me take a nap but I didn't get my way. 
The best part was holding that little boy in my arms! Oh how beautiful he was. We had lots of visitors that day and it was fun to see all my family and show off my precious baby boy. He was 7 pounds 8 ounces and 21 inches long. Just perfect!     

I will finish this posting when I get the pictures ready....